EVOLVE: Transformative Biblical Counseling Center
|Posted on February 12, 2020 at 11:35 AM|
by Dr. P
Psalm 34:18a-The Lord is near to them that are broken hearted
A broken heart is the source of distress, depression and despair for many. This is especially true in this valentine season. Our eyes are flooded with images ( real or not) of love birds, kisses, hearts and gifts to give or get. This makes recovering from heartbreak especially difficult during this time.
Heartbreak occurs when our hopes, dreams, affections, trust in another are lost, betrayed, abandoned, abused, or rejected.. The grief that follows shows up physically( pain, low energy, appetite changes, tearfulness). It shows up emotionally( depression, anxiety, anger) and it shows up in our behavior (irritable, aggressive, acts of desperation).
Heartbreak is a real dis-ease that if not addressed can be a gateway to disease and disorder.
So what do you do? How do you handle it. Some may say, get over it, move on. But that is easier said than done. it ain’t that easy.
Gettin up from heartbreak requires time AND intention.
Here are what I call the 4 Ls of dealing with brokenheartedness
Let yourself grieve the loss, the hurt. Let yourself cry, let yourself feel the pain, anger and sadness. When we try to block these feelings or put down our emotions, they build up to an explosion or they seep out in other potentially destructive ways
Lean on your friends, family. Often we feel ashamed, if we’ve been betrayed, or rejected and try to hide the truth. But sharing our truth with loved ones and supporters can lighten the load by sharing the burden.
Every interaction, whether positive or negative brings knowledge. What does the experience teach you about yourself, your interactive style, your motives? How will it inform your next steps?
God’s Word is the ultimate teaching, healing, delivering power in the universe. Search the scriptures for the Word of your situation, list them, meditate upon them and allow them to mend your broken heart. Here are some to begin your journey
If you need help to recover and don’t know where to begin, call EVOLVE 931. 905-2200